Here's why, in a sentence: they promise to be abstractions, but they end up becoming services. An abstraction frees you from thinking about its internals every time you use it. A service allows you to never learn its internals. A service is not an abstraction. It isn't 'abstracting' away the details. Somebody else is thinking about the details so you can remain ignorant.
Programmers manage abstraction boundaries, that's our stock in trade. Managing them requires bouncing around on both sides of them. If you restrict yourself to one side of an abstraction, you're limiting your growth as a programmer.1 You're chopping off your strength and potential, one lock of hair at a time, and sacrificing it on the altar of convenience.
A library you're ignorant of is a risk you're exposed to, a now-quiet frontier that may suddenly face assault from some bug when you're on a deadline and can least afford the distraction. Better to take a day or week now, when things are quiet, to save that hour of life-shortening stress when it really matters.
You don't have to give up the libraries you currently rely on. You just have to take the effort to enumerate them, locate them on your system, install the sources if necessary, and take ownership the next time your program dies within them, or uncovers a bug in them. Are these activities more time-consuming than not doing them? Of course. Consider them a long-term investment.
Just enumerating all the libraries you rely on others to provide can be eye-opening. Tot up all the open bugs in their trackers and you have a sense of your exposure to risks outside your control. In fact, forget the whole system. Just start with your Gemfile or npm_modules. They're probably lowest-maturity and therefore highest risk.
Once you assess the amount of effort that should be going into each library you use, you may well wonder if all those libraries are worth the effort. And that's a useful insight as well. “Achievement unlocked: I've stopped adding dependencies willy-nilly.”
1. If you don't identify as a programmer, if that isn't your core strength, if you just program now and then because it's expedient, then treating libraries as services may make more sense. If a major issue pops up you'll need to find more expert help, but you knew that already.
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